Sore winners

During a conversation earlier today, it was claimed inter alia, that in attractive couples the man tends to be the winner, while in unattractive couples the woman is the winner. I think this is standard lingo/jargon, but winner simply refers to which ever member of the couple did better for themselves on first glance, meaning the less attractive member of the couple. Without commenting on the truth of the first claim, I noted that it would be explained by there being greater variance of female attractiveness than of male attractiveness, and that it does seem like that is true. Thoughts on either of these are appreciated.